I have a wonderful loving husband, but I don't think that I'm IN LOVE with him anymore?

This is a complaint that is often vocalized after life as a married couple has simmered down some, in some ways the party is over, the rush of excitement that you once experienced from your husbands mere presence has seized, this does not mean you don't love him, I think that maybe you may be confused, your confusion more then likely started when all the heart pounding excitement stopped, and when reality came about, this is when you decided, you made the choice, to say to yourself over and over that you no longer love him, you all by yourself have convinced yourself that your not in love, but I beg to differ, I believe that you do love him, but for reasons of confusion you are fighting it, you are bringing up a wall that can be taken down, but only if you want to, but I don't see this wall coming down, as you are to convinced that you no longer want this man in your life, as you have verbally stated over and over nothing but pure negativity and meaningless justification's. I am guessing many other people on this forum are going to say to you, just leave him, they will tell you things you want to hear, I however am a realist, I know that sometimes we may be our own biggest enemies. Prior to taking any actions that will have serious consenquences, do make sure that you are in the right frame of mind, as sometimes things are not always what they seem, and if your husband is as wonderful as you say, wouldn't it be a shame to toss him to the curb all because you were not thinking straight? Also if he is this wonderful their are many women who will be more then happy to take him from you, then what? So do the right thing, think about this and instead of convincing yourself that your not in love, reverse the situation, tell yourself you are in love, it is amazing how strong our minds can be when trying to fight something or twist it into something it is not.